Maria Menounos, Extra's co-host, just appeared on Good Morning America a few days ago to discuss her choice to freeze her eggs, because she's not ready for children yet. You can read all about it here:
http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/health/2011/09/26/maria-menounos-my-choice-to-freeze-my-eggs/
Well, I'm not ready for children either, but I don't have $20,000 laying around to set up "an insurance plan" as Maria aptly calls it.
John and I caught a bit of this segment, where they warned women about how much riskier pregnancies are once you hit 40+, and how much more difficult it becomes to conceive. I am all too well aware of this.
John looked at me and said, "maybe we should be doing that," to which I immediately replied, "We can't afford to." And, the sad fact is, that we just can't.
I know I've pretty much said I'm leaning towards adoption if we do kid, but I do have moments every-so-often where I kinda can't help but think a mini John/Leigh combo would be a hell of a lot of fun... boy or girl... though I would really, really be hoping for a girl...
And then my adorable thoughts are shattered by a barrage of horrifying ones:
1. I'm getting older... fast... and John and I are still not in a position to bring a new life into this world. Without freezing my eggs, we won't really have a choice other than adoption if we don't make up our minds about this kid thing within the next couple of years. That's not necessarily a bad thing - but I hate that the choice will have been made for me.
2. I'm petrified of giving birth. Positively petrified. Does anyone know anyone who's died giving birth? I'm serious. Anyone? I know this doesn't generally happen anymore - but it must happen sometimes, and someone's gotta draw that lucky number, right?
3. If I were to give birth, it would probably HAVE to be a C-section. Don't ask... just trust me on this one. Much like giving birth, I'm also petrified of surgery. What the hell is wrong with me?
4. I may be in the process of reinventing my career... again... something that kids really don't play into all that well.
5. What if we had a boy? I don't even know what I'd do with a male child. Part of me, (and part of John), would really hope that he would be the equivalent of Nate Berkus. It would make both of us feel much more comfortable with the whole thing.
Nevertheless, I'm still kind of having that freak-out moment about my eggs slowly rotting and thinking: Great... what next?
I wonder if CARE CREDIT would be able to cover this procedure....?
ReplyDelete... not that you want to saddle yourself with a new debt/payment obligation. And I don't how hard it is to qualify for it, but I do know that people use it to pay for procedures that are aesthetic / cosmetic.
ReplyDeleteJust a thought, that I thought, I would share with you... :)
Jessica Gaynes
On the boy thing...I absolutely, positively NEVER wanted a boy; my husband and I both wanted several children (3-4) and I wanted a house full of girls. Like you, I had no idea what I would do with a boy child. I even cried during the ultrasound when the tech pointed out those boy bits. BUT - and I'm sure you've heard this before - the love you will feel for your child blows gender preference completely out of the water. My son is now four (and a half), and I hear myself saying, "Josh, you are such a BOY" several times a week. But oh my God, when he invariably responds with "I love you, Mommy!" I just about die of love. <3
ReplyDeleteHey Jessica - Thanks for your input. I actually don't think John and I will be resorting to the egg freezing thing. Look, if we had money to burn, then maybe... but the last thing we want to do right now is accrue additional debt. Plus, there's the hormone injections. Mine are FINALLY, FINALLY in check, so I don't think I want to mess with them right now either.
ReplyDeleteFiona - as far as gender goes, I'm sure you're 100% correct - and I am confident that if I did decided to get knocked up and wound up with a boy, I'd be smitten too. Scared, but smitten.