Sometimes my husband surprises me, like he did this past weekend. We were at the beach, enjoying the ocean and watching these adorable little kids playing at the shoreline - and while I can't quote John verbatim, he said something along the lines of really needing two little girls if we're going to do the whole kidding thing at all.
What?!? Did I hear that correctly? Was he serious? Two?!? Two little girls?!? That never even really occurred to me. My immediate reaction was thus:
"You know then that if we adopt, we're going to want to adopt two at the same time, or we'll have to repeat the entire process all over again, which would mean another 2 trips to whichever country we potentially adopt from." This would translate to a grand total of 4 trips equivalent to approximately 64+ days of overseas travel.
John said, "I know."
I don't recall the conversation continuing much past that point, but I remember thinking that I never really gave serious thought to more than one child. I think I had ultimately ruled it out for a variety of reasons, (our age by the time we get around to this nonsense, cost, etc.)
Never gave it much thought at all, until now.
Now I'm thinking:
a) John's probably right.
b) How on earth would we manage two babies at once? How does anyone?
c) If we kid, when on earth are we going to be able to afford to?
d) Damn you crappy economy. Damn you.
e) If we kid, I would give ANYTHING to be a successful stay-at-home mom with a respectable income.
f) My poor puppies would be so confused by two tiny little people in the house that cry... a lot.
g) My puppies would really LOVE having two more people they can con into giving them excessive amounts of treats and belly rubs.
h) Maybe there's a wealthy distant relative I'm yet unaware of who is about to bequeath their entire estate to me when they keel over and die. (Did I just write that? Ugh, I'm definitely going to hell).
i) Would we adopt two little girls of different ages?
j) If we did adopt little girls of different ages, what is the cutoff? 2 years? 3?
k) Nature vs. nurture... this whole debate rages on, doesn't it? And if you miss the whole infancy bonding thing, what then? Are we screwed?
l) Los Angeles is very expensive - and filled with traffic - dangerous traffic - and I have a two seater car, that I bought one year ago. Ugh.
m) I can't believe I'm on the letter m
And on that note...
i have a younger sister and she's my best friend. i vote for 2 girls. and maybe move to central cali?
ReplyDeletesorry, now you'll have to add moving into the mix of considerations.
You are evil Simone. Evil.
ReplyDeleteI always wanted a sister.
ReplyDeleteI always wanted a sibling...didn't get one. But now I am raising an only child (I am 99% sure she will always be one) and while I worry about it sometimes, I love that it's us 3. I love that she is social and makes friends easily (for the record, I didn't). Perhaps if I had been 4 years younger when I had her she wouldn't be an only, but that wasn't in the cards. Don't discount the only. We are a special, and loved, breed.
ReplyDeleteHello Anonymous - Thanks for reading and for the comment. I'm not discounting the only at all, just considering the alternative. If you always wanted a sibling though, wouldn't you recommend that for others who are potentially planning a family? Besides, aren't the odds better if we have two? I mean, with one, it could turn out to be a horror and that's it. With two, one could be a horror and the other a wonderful little angel - and then there's a balance... although I suppose you could wind up with TWO little horrors, now couldn't you? Scary thought.
ReplyDeleteI've heard of a lot of reasons people consider not having children but "DANGEROUS TRAFFIC" takes the psychotic cake. LOL!!!
ReplyDelete- Chris "smegma breath" Graham
Kriz - that was meant to be a joke. I am psycho, but not quite that psycho. :)
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